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<therapist> Do you have a sofa?

<me> no. honestly, I'm lucky I have a mattress :( [here I start crying as I try to figure out where to begin in telling the story of the saga that led to my failure to buy a sofa while I re-live the trauma of buying the mattress]

> Client: I want him to prove he is interested in me by persisting despite my giving him the cold shoulder.

Don't let reddit get a hold of this.

There are real women who think like this. Not all of them, of course. Humans are weird. Incels on Reddit are gonna do and say weird shit regardless

I would replace weird with complex. It's better.

Pessimistic take -- it's entirely possible the woman in this story doesn't really want a realistic and happy relationship. Perhaps she's subconsciously choosing serial monogamy with attractive players because of her own attitudes of what an ideal man looks like.

Maybe that's too harsh. Or maybe once a person talked to her there would be dozens of more layers and tests and games involved.

The thing is, I just want to sleep on the sofa; I don't want to buy it.

Try couch surfing, or Rent-a-Center.

my shorter take: https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=34518784

The Sofa Theory of Dating