The problem comes down to putting kids in forced confinement with a bunch of other kids for 6 hours a day with no way for them to escape. Mandatory "education" of teens is harmful on the net. It wastes some of the most energetic and productive hours of life while teaching very few useful skills (and those could be taught in a fraction of the time).

  It's easy to be dismissive of these ideas, but there is an
  extensive and rigorous literature on network topology and
  dynamics.

Parenting through rigorous literature on network topology and dynamics?

  Arguing on the basis of your own developmental experience
  in which significantly different conditions obtained (eg
  the non-existence/availability of social media or the
  internet) is equivalent to just wishing the problem away.

Actually, it was a description of having fixed the problem, because it wasn't as much of a problem as people believe beforehand through network topology that simulates k-12 social circles. When parents love their children, talk to them, are privy to their kids' social circles, and make decisions in the best welfare of their children, those children are able to recover from the intense loss of missing what Stacy posted last night.

I'm a parent, and I was what you call a "non-participant" kid who was bullied when I was in junior high and high school. Here's the thing: School ends. It's a tiny part of one's life. I know, when you're in it, it feels like it takes forever, but once you graduate high school, nobody on earth gives a shit about where you were on the social totem pole. In the grand scheme of things, the cliques and social circles are entirely unimportant, and I plan to teach my kid that. Keep your eye on the prize. K-12 school is something you simply endure until you are an adult in the adult world.

I get what you're saying but we shouldn't escalate this into a type of prison gang situation, there's significant middle ground.

When the research is becoming clear that these dynamics and these years of a teen life cause so much harm, we can't be so fatalistic to say that giving in is mandatory.

Even chatgpt knows.

(prompt:) what does it mean to parent?

  To parent means to raise and nurture a child from infancy to adulthood,
  providing them with love, care, guidance, and support as they grow and
  develop. Parenting involves a wide range of responsibilities and
  activities, including providing for a child's physical needs, such as
  food, shelter, and medical care, as well as their emotional and
  psychological needs, such as love, affection, and encouragement.

  Effective parenting also involves setting boundaries and rules, providing
  discipline when necessary, and teaching children important life skills,
  such as communication, problem-solving, and decision-making. As children
  grow and mature, parents often adjust their parenting style to meet their
  children's changing needs and help them develop into independent and
  responsible adults.