> "I think we have to accept that we poison everywhere we live, and strive to concentrate ourselves in a small enough area that the planet can tolerate us."
That may be true in a broader sense, but I think when it comes to outdoor lighting, it's a matter of changing the current prevailing policies that a lot of people don't like even if they're acting purely from selfish motives. I think the problem is that whenever you get a disagreement between someone who wants it dark so they can sleep and see the stars and someone who wants more light because they're afraid of crime or getting run over by a car at night, the latter almost always win.
There's some logic to that -- if someone's house gets robbed or you have a car accident the consequences are immediate and verifiable. If it happens a lot there'll be clear statistical trends. Whereas if someone can't sleep as well it's kind of a vague complaint that can be ignored, because the impact is spread out over the whole population and you can't really measure it. Everyone's lives are just a little bit worse and most people wouldn't even realize it or be able to recognize or articulate why. If you're a risk-averse mayor or president of the local HOA, of course you'd approve more lights, unless there's an organized effort to prioritize reducing light pollution.