Congrats if you have plucked envy out of you! How do you avoid being envious of "legit" individuals (i.e those who achieved greater success coming from far adverse situations) ?
and, unexplained, why wouldn't you still be envious of people who had all the advantages you didn't? It comes off a bit more like sour grapes.
Envy is a natural base human emotion, that's why it was put in the 10 commandments 6 or more thousand years ago. Don't deny you have it, we all do, acknowledge it for what it is, and use it to stimulate yourself to strive harder/better, or give up on what is unattainable and move on to more satisfying goals.
And btw, there are exceptionally good students just like there are exceptionally good athletes, without regard to their background. People, including lousy athletes, applaud good athletes. On HN, it's a constant drumbeat of "it's unfair to test me in my chosen field, it's unfair to look at my scores, it's unfair to judge me, just give ME the job, then I'll show you"
Well, one approach is to just accept agency for one's own choices and have some self-empathy. I understood that where more opportunity might have been there for me, I made choices that were sound to where I was at the time and these choices led me down a different path. Sometimes they look like wise choices in hindsight, and sometimes they look foolish but understandable in context. And then I make sure to find satisfaction in where I am, rather than where I might have been.
I think this level of laziness and lack of ambition is out of place on this board, but common in the general public.
I don't know of any heroic human that independently accomplishes without any assistance whatsoever. I do know of many accomplished humans that had small but important influences that enabled them, and I think that has taught me as an adult that I need to ensure kindness and generosity towards humans around me.