Practically you are saying that pedagogy and psychology are wrong and harmful on a fundamental level.
Either you are in denial or a whole field of science is wrong.
In my specific case it didn't help and was more harmful than helpful. For other people it is helpful. n=1 but I'm probably not a very special individual, so situations similar to mine probably apply to other people as well, although I have no idea how many exactly, or if this number has been increasing or decreasing.
The value of the advice to "man up," is that there exists a good way to be and you have to make some basic effort to help yourself before others will help you.
The field in question is psychology and its appendant body, psychiatry, who you may remember from such treatments as trepanation, lobotomy, chemical castration, solitary confinement, valium, re-parenting, diagnoses like hysteria, and the APA's most recent forfeit of any remaining credibility with "toxic masculinity" - to say nothing of what it is doing to actual children in the last decade.
To be clear, psychology isn't a science, it's a critical theory of mind. It uses drugs, dresses itself up in some limited statistics from "social science" and prances in front of the mirror saying it's doing chemistry and biology. Therapy and drugs help some people by reducing their suffering, but it's a pretext, not an empirical inquiry into the nature of matter.
Not to mention the huge bias involved when someone claims "bad thing happened to me and look I'm perfectly ok".