The parent comment used the word mate.
The word leer refers to the leching that was discused in the article. The article says, "a number of female students have approached me, noting they are disgusted and uncomfortable with the amount of leching taking place". Lech and leer are semantically related words. [1]
Yes, but not in the context of calling their "prospective cuddlybear" a mate.
> Please respond to the strongest plausible interpretation of what someone says, not a weaker one that's easier to criticize. Assume good faith.
From reading the text of the actual article, "and a number of female students have approached me, noting they are disgusted and uncomfortable with the amount of "leching" taking place".
From the comment I had replied to, "but it's damn hard to find a mate if you are not in the top 20% of (straight) men, and basically requires you to be aggressive like this".
> Please respond to the strongest plausible interpretation of what someone says, not a weaker one that's easier to criticize. Assume good faith.
Please respond to the article and not an interpretation of partial words and phrases taken from comments. Frankly, it wastes time and derails actual discussions from happening.
With over 512 million users, Badoo is easily among the most popular dating apps in the world.
This is like someone who walks to work claiming that no one drives cars.
Having successful interactions with potential partners and forming relationships is really not about looking like Brad Pitt. Trust me, I know.
And I don’t say this just to try to be politically correct.
It’s easy for young people to fall into this delusion, but there’s much more to it than looks.
The dating experience of (heterosexual) men and women is worlds apart. Being on the non-initiating side blinds women to the amount of rejection involved in the process. Men, on the other hand, are not exposed to the amount of unwanted attention it involves since men only interact when they initiate.