If adding a few counters to your code base cause any of these issues, your current team is already dysfunctional and will get more productive my improving the system.

eg “Metrics server goes down” metrics should be sent pre-aggregated, and in batches, even possibly polled for. Having 10 metrics that fire 10^N times a second shouldn’t impact the metrics server, ever! Metrics servers are impacted by cardinality, so yes don’t create 10^N unique metrics.

eg “something that fires 1000times a millisecond” if the rest of the team doesn’t know where their hot-loops are and has them commented or caught in a code review, it’s very likely someone will add some logic to it that will hurt. The metric is just one such change, and might as well find out sooner than later. If it will cripple your service, that is why CI/CD encourages canary deployments / other automated performance testing.

eg “metric causes a deadlock” - umm, this is just too contrived. I’ve never used or heard of any metric library that was built this way. This type of metrics client would cripple even a very experienced developer on that team.

Summary, if adding a metric can cripple your service or team, reconsider priorities. It will speed you up even in the medium term.