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The problem is a toxic working environment.
The meta problem is handwaving away too many toxic working environments with "the root cause of the problem is solved because the victims can get therapy"
It's no different than staying with an abuser.
I wish I’d left.
It can get bad if you stay. Take everything.
We are a highly specialized society with lots of occupations that can help you navigate different kinds of problems. For this kind of problem in particular, try talking to a therapist.
If you are overwhelmed by a plumbing problem, you call a plumber. If your house is burning down, you call the fire department. If your pet has a problem, you go see a veterinarian. This is the same thing. Nobody expects you to be an expert in getting out of every type of problem that exists. Just don't think too hard about it or care too much about what others might think.
Be kind to yourself.
I'd recommend avoiding talkspace.
And for the love of god, if a therapist isn't working for you within 3 sessions, For fucks sake don't "stick it out".
You're worth it. Get the help you deserve, not what the system is willing to give you on it's first try.
There's nothing worse than a therapist that you know isn't listening to you, and you keep going, because your actual problem is that you can't tell the difference between what's your fault and what's not.
And they never let you or helped you get there.
And you could see it. And you knew that was your fault.
So you didn't say anything.
And besides, you were a rich tech bro, he was employed on a gig platform. He's more economically dependent, ergo he deserves help, ergo I'll stick with him and try to be an easy client.
This is the product of a diseased mind that can't fucking stand up for itself.
So. Fuck TalkSpace.
And whoever reads this. Yes. Find someone else. It's not your responsibility to stick with a therapist that isn't working for you.
If you've gone through five therapists, maybe you're the problem, I don't know. Then open that box.
But you have _my_ permission, to go through five therapists before asking yourself that question.
You also have my permission to ignore that, and believe that you can go through any number of therapists.
I affirm your right to choose.
True.
But also consider there are a class of people who suffer through things thinking "This is not that bad, right? Is this a normal experience"?. And especially an issue if they're isolated (which commonly causes depression), they lack normalcy around them reinforcing "Yes its that bad! That is not normal and you need help!"
Your brain is in a way like any other organ in your body. When the other organs don't work you go see a doctor.
We need to normalize talking about mental health. Instead of making it a big deal and stigmatizing it.
We should be able to casually say "I went to the therapist yesterday and it was great, and then I got some eggs from the supermarket and then I made myself a sandwich".
We spend too much time worrying about what other people think.