I do get it - these people have been on the Fediverse longer and feel like it's a form of digital colonialisim, but as I've pointed out - if they keep shutting down individuals who do things in good faith, soon when the "BigSocial" comes along and does it anyway, they won't have anyone there to help speak up as they'll have blocked, defederated or just scared people off.
Also the underlying problem here is a tech one - it could be fixed by correctly implementing the "noindex" stuff and working on privacy and consent features. This can't be fixed as a people problem, and certainly won't be by shutting down any attempts to address the problem now
Also TIL that a "FOSSBro" is apparently a thing people now like to throw about.
There's a similar term in science: bropenscience (bro + open science). The behaviour is strangely similar, people on the nerdier side who have been doing 'their' niche-thing for a while and are often condescending/aggressive towards newcomers. It's interesting that both FOSS and open science were made to make things more 'open' but sometimes lock/close things down even more.
It's a feature simply too useful to too many. It will get built if it can get built.
All of the decisions up to this point have been debated, carefully considered, and there's always a reason why things are the way they are (you can usually find that reason deep within Mastodon's issue tracker). When someone comes in and tries to disrupt that fine balance that took years of effort to achieve, people get very hostile, sometimes to an unreasonable degree.
A suggestion of some sort: just don't fuck with other people's posts. At all. If you want to fuck around with fediverse, build your own presentation in any way you want to and interact with other people. But don't try building "meta" projects like search engines, stats, analyses and what not. Even if your intentions are good and you do your damn best to respect everyone's wishes, you will still piss off a lot of people. The only way to avoid that is to make your product opt-in, but then pretty much nobody will want to opt-in, so you'd just be wasting your time.
100% agree the response is inappropriate.
If you don't do an apology like done here the mob will continue to attack you. So I totally understand why they did this.
Crazy thing is that a lot of the policing of other people's behaviour is even from people who haven't even been around for long. It's crazy seeing people trying to control other people's behaviour by attacking them and telling them "that's not how things are done here" when they've been on Mastodon for less time than the person they're policing!
I'm glad that we live in a world in which some people respond to this kind of social dogpile with defiance and renewed inspiration. Progress depends on highly disagreeable people who gain energy from being told by tut-tutting do-godders that certain things musn't be done.