Research says that incidences of both rise as the age of parents does, but it's not something heavily studied at this time. His oncologist said at least partially because they already deal with parents blaming themselves enough.
Just because you had a healthy kid does not mean everyone will or that there is no risk.
Humans evolved to have sex and get pregnant before middle age. That's just our biology. DNA itself is a machine, and ours doesn't have built in protections to accommodate later pregnancies with high fidelity. If we had evolutionary pressure, it would. But there is no such pressure.
Cultures that encourage starting families at 25 will genetically dominate cultures that encourage starting families at 35.
Thats more than simple correlation. Having kids when you are in middle age might have been known as physically difficult, especially for the mother. We've made huge leaps in medicine to trivialize child birth but for most of human existence, it was a game of dice, to some degree it still is, where mother and/or child could perish.
Maybe younger women cope better with the physical stresses of pregnancy? Nature seems to think so.
Not really. That's when they start having sex. So you end up having kids whether you like it or not.
It's been a long road to understanding we weren't at fault for either condition though. We lost a lot of friends and family who just found us too needy during that, and that hurt our self confidence as well.
We made some friends at the hospital but after all those shared experiences and solidarity none us really kept in touch either. Which is sad in a way but honestly we were all there for one another when we needed it in the way we needed it.
We had to reboot our lives in every way imaginable and that worked for us. It doesn’t for everyone though, some people need the familiar things in life to stay grounded, my wife and I mainly needed each other.
Do your best for yourself and each other. That approach was the main thing that kept me sane afterwards and I don’t regret it for a minute.
https://www.cancerhealth.com/article/live-near-cancer-hot-sp...
That said I've been exposed to all kinds of crap in my career. Even money that any given military ship would be considered a moving cancer zone.
Here's a story of a grandmother birthing her own grandchild.
https://people.com/human-interest/grandmother-gave-birth-son...
https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/geriatric
It’s a bizarre cultural problem.
We did not plan it this late, but just wanted to say that higher age is not a guarantee of bad things.
For men 35 is nothing, men can sire children to their last breath.
Ask your friends who have started families past 35, so many stories about fertility, doctors, etc.
It is also why you see so many twins among middle aged professional couples, the children were the result of fertility treatments.
With the way society is changing, I think eventually human evolution will catch up and allow women to stay fertile later in life.