Hi, I'm maybe one of those moronic retards you talk about. Please, please help us out! The world is eagerly awaiting your super non-garbage solutions. Please show us the way... You could be a hero!
1. Scrap everything you have done so far and start over.
2. Use tried and tested engineering principles as basis for your development philosophy (such as "mechanism, not policy" or "Keep It Simple Stupid").
3. Choose the right target audience. The target audience of the FOSS-Desktop are neither car entertainment systems, nor Android consumer users that potentially download malware everyday. Your target audience are power users and developers that know what they are doing. If you don't agree, go work for a car manufacturer, work as an Android developer or do something else, just stay away from the FOSS-Desktop.
4. Do what developers and power users need! Just some examples: use simple and stable interfaces, use non-opaque low-level abstractions, standardize often used functionality, avoid redundant standards, don't litter my pstree with pointless daemons, use existing mechanism provided by the OS, use clear text for low bandwidth IPC, keep dependency trees as small as possible, keep build dependencies as small as possible, look at Plan9 as inspiration instead of Windows and MacOS.