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Both Indian and Chinese kids continue to excel in every industry, despite heavy involvement from parents. (and happy)

OTOH, I've seen many White students raised by liberal parents with too much student debt (and depressed).

So, unless there is data to prove that "letting 18 years old to make their own life changing decisions" on their own, we need to stop this overly progressive method.

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It's a mixed bag. My Asian wife had heavy involvement from her parents. For her I think it worked well. For her brother not so much.

I think it's a matter of degree. Many in the west could have more involvement in their children's education and see better outcomes. Many outside the west could give their children a little more freedom and see better outcomes. Neither is perfect.

And sometimes heavy involvement with a Therapist later as an adult.

It’s a lot better to be wealthy and pay a few grand a year for therapy than to be always broke and unemployed.

This is false dichotomy.

Depends what the therapy is for I think. There are mental struggles worse than broke and unemployed for some, even with a lot of money.

Parents should encourage, not force imho.

This does not check out. Some of the happiest people I know are also some of the poorest people I know. And some of the unhappiest people I know are also some of the wealthiest people I know.

Here is a song from a popular Hindi movie that tackles this subject (this movie was a hit even in China): https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lbCRtrrMvSw

There is tremendous pressure on students from both parents and society. This is because of the competition. The population is so huge, the infrastructure bad and opportunities far less. So it becomes a rat's race.

> (and happy)

Lol, ask most South Asian Americans or Asian Americans how they feel about their parents.

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