3. Some amount of people don’t want to feel like the dating process is an interview process, of attempting to insert a “bum” into a “seat”, of finding a “candidate” to fill a “role”. Of course that doesn’t stop it from still _being that_, it’s just that some people are fully comfortable with an upfront, obvious and formal selection process, but many people are not, and want the process to have some amount of an “organic” feel to it.

As with anything with dating, since you have no idea of what a new person’s criteria is, and they may not know either, and since there’s often a certain poker game involved in revealing those intentions, most people seem to opt for feeling it out as they go along. Honestly I think this is fine, it’s just that you have to give each other enough time and space for that, and that’s often a problem