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I wouldn't put much stock in this. Sometimes people will say this and mean it and other times they won't and the only way to feel the difference is non-verbal + context. There is no book of hidden phrases, signals or cheat codes.

Honestly I would approach the entire article with skepticism. Guys like the author are mostly dogs barking at the mirror. The underlying philosophy that socialization has a fixed set of rules that can be gamed and optimized is faulty.

Yeah, I was really confused when the author followed that by writing, "If that’s the response I get, I’m totally done and moving on."

If that's the response I get, it sounds like the other person wants me to tell them more. I might follow up with, "have you ever done anything like that?" or a million other things.

There is no such list, and you're entitled to feel hurt when others are manipulating you like this.

On the other hand, interested people usually ask questions. It's worth it to look out for that as a signal, but it's not going to be 100% valid.