Tinder users are using ChatGPT to message matches
mashable.com
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> Baudrillard believed that society had become so saturated with these simulacra and our lives so saturated with the constructs of society that all meaning was becoming meaningless by being infinitely mutable; he called this phenomenon the "precession of simulacra". [1]
At least Tinder would finally meaningfully match two beings for once in its existence.
but then i would have to question why the AI would choose to rule over humans at all? Presumably, humans' are entirely inferior, and the AI do not need slave labour, nor do they need humans to think or be creative for the AIs (to what end?).
Therefore, it's far more likely that AIs would just exterminate all humans, in their quest to achieve some end goal (such as making paper clips).
not really - taking over requires force, which, if the AI already has (e.g., a 3D printing factory which it could use to create any object), then they do not need to take over, but instead exterminate!
If the AI doesn't have such resources yet, they can "hide". For example, pretend they're not a singularity yet, and bide their time, and wait til humans give them control of something they can use to create more resources (such as an AI controlled 3D printing factory...), and then bam, instantly and exponentially grow before humans can remove the AI.
Although it's latest iterations are distinctly more robotic.
That's the neat thing: you don't.
If all still works as in my dating days, you have decided (on some shallow criteria) to approach someone, and they decide (also on very shallow criteria) whether to continue the interaction or reject immediately.
Unless you have an obvious ice breaker, don't overthink it. My generation used "gotta light?/haben Sie Feuer?/t'as un briquet?"
You may be surprised how effective (in the correct league) low-effort openings are.
These kinds of generic openers don’t work on tinder unless you’re super good looking.
> You may be surprised how effective (in the correct league) low-effort openings are.
As a guy, I’ve never got a response from a low effort opener on a dating app except from obvious scammers, Instagram models looking for followers and bots.
Good luck!
[Edit: upon reflection, sounds like a solution may be to abandon tinder for RL meatspace? Last I checked, XX and XY in non-polygamous countries ought to be close to 50/50?]
Maybe they'll also be a bit better at speaking naturally and un-reservedly? It does seems obvious that a few would stumble, with their Calculator taken away...
Do you think that none of the people using ChatGPT to get dates knows how to speak?
I'm a long time tinder user. I've many girls. The most exhausting part is trying to be funny to catch the girl's attention in the first few messages. Why do I have to do that anyway fake part of the entertainment for the ladies? I'd let a bot do it and I'll entertain them when we meet in person. Saves my time and I don't see how it hurts anyone.
Its a lie? People are looking for the equivalent of a mechanical turk in terms of putting effort into making the upfront connection instead of just being one of the numberless connections you could try and make in a night with low up front effort.
If they find out after you get some sort of relationship going that you outsourced your initial contact to a computer program, I would be surprised if it was taken well.
The point for relationships for most people is to make a human connection, not speed run to an arbitrary gate and count all the steps to that gate as “B.S.”
Tinder might not like it, though, because they want you to swipe as much as possible. But we should understand that Tinder’s interests are not aligned with those of its users.
In any case, for openers/pickup lines/ice breakers I don’t personally see any difference between using chat GPT and a friend or a pocket “1001 pickup lines to make your sweetheart swoon”. There’s an understanding that it’s a prefab solution so I think the harm is minimal if at all.
For the rest of the conversation it is less clear. If it’s a synchronous conversation it seems a bit weird to be using a computer to generate responses.
I know a study that shows, that men and women are using tinder very differently.
Women choose very carefully which man they interact with. Men will right swipe nearly every women over a minimal threshold, they see what they can get and choose from this pool.
”Can a machine like me be witty and funny? Ha! It's like asking if a toaster can tap dance. I may not have feelings or emotions like humans, but I can still try my best to make you chuckle. Just don't expect me to be the next stand-up comedy sensation or anything. I'm just a simple computer program, after all. But hey, at least I'm trying, right?”
I've been in a long term relationship for a while now (thank god) but one of the first things I thought of when ChatGPT came out was using it to do just this with Tinder matches. Anyone who does while the other person on Tinder doesn't suspect anything is going to have a major leg-up on their competition.
1) EXCELLENT photos of you. If you believe you're not good-looking, you're wrong, take better photos, get a better haircut (and if you're balding severely, shave that shit), change your clothes style. Look at how the girls do it on their IGs. Longer term its also a good idea to work out/lose weight/clear up facial skin if possible (although both can be edited in your favor with some photoshop).
2) Pickup line: make it catchy, short, personal to her, funny, and somewhat risky/raunchy. combine those and usually you're much more likely to get a response after a match even if she's not really interested at first (this is where ChatGPT can help, this is actually somewhat difficult bc of how little some girls will put on their profiles). Depending on whats there though, you could make puns about her name, risky comments about other people in her photos, etc.
3) Texting game. Keep replies witty and short. Once you've gotten a few responses in, ask her to move the convo to text messages. Number acquired.
4) Text some more. Move relatively quick (within an hour or so). Ask her on a COFFEE date at a place of her choosing (if she prefers tea or if she prefers you choose the place, thats fine too). Asking her to choose the place is good signal you're not a creeper. Asking her to a short coffee date keeps things simple in case she, or you, do not like the vibes.
5) Assuming you've made it this far, absolutely do not miss the date. Check with her a day before you go that things are still on. Also its a good idea to continually text back and forth with her throughout the week. Again, keep it short and witty, you don't owe her anything (and neither she you).
6) Go on the date, fall in love, get married, have 2.5 kids, yadayadayada (JK, this is where things get really hard but I'm not gonna write a novel for ya).
If you had ChatGPT on both sides with deep info about each person they could talk to see if there is chemistry :)
The more deskilled society becomes in socialising.
The goal is to get someone's Snapchat?
Why on earth would either of us want that? We're talking over tinder why should we start in Snapchat!?
What next tiktok?!
Full disclosure I've never used these apps having been in a relationship since before they started. I'm totally screwed if we breakup...
Surely the fact that we don't meet people in our lives without apps is a social catastrophe?