For about 18 months, I commuted from Southern NJ to Wall St, NY. My reason was that I was not going to get another job and start my own business anyway so I just stuck with it till then. On a good day, it was 2.5 hours one way door to door and bad day, 3 hours (drive->bus->walk). You cannot do it for too long for sure. It WILL burn you out no matter how good your commute may be.
Your best bet: If you think you can get into Tech and get a fully remote job, start working on that plan on weekends (week days will be tough due to the nature of your job). Then once u are able to find something, quit. One bright side of your commute is that it is 3 days not all 5 days.