It's very difficult to go through life being treated with disdain, which is the treatment a lot of nonbinary and transgender people get. Even if you think it's justified, you don't have to be the reason their lives are difficult.
Should i be able to force you to pretend im not balding?
Huh, that's an interesting analogy and not one I'd ever really thought about before. After all, there are people with terrible combovers and toupees that most people pretend they don't notice (no offense if that's you, OP). I'm trying to imagine how much "not playing along" you'd have to do before you ended up in HR over it, and I'd think it would have to be quite a bit - certainly just pretending you didn't notice and not agreeing or disagreeing when the guy in question says his hair is completely natural wouldn't be enough.