She said the only realistic thing, in the movie Borat, was the kidnapping scene, and even that was outlandish.
Gonna go read the article now and see if I need to make any updates.
As a boy whenever I heard a woman had been "stolen" I couldn't help but picture a man carrying her off on his shoulders in the middle of the night while she helplessly tried to get away. Took me a while to understand it was usually consensual.
In many cases, it is just preserving language describing the act given the prior assumption that the woman was property of the male head of household until disposed of by them in marriage, devoid of her own agency, while the man attempting to marry her without that consent was fully possessed of moral agency and thus had stolen her from her appropriate custodian.
So yes there are some serious problems there, but do take it with a grain of salt. Some people are lucky.
Yeah I'd say the murder the story centers on and several other stories recounted don't fit what you said too well. The article also calls into question how voluntary these "voluntary" kidnappings truly are in their social context.
I think with my first comment you got what was literally said to me.
My second comment is me recalling and re-reading between the lines.