It really sucks. This is not what I wanted for the fedi when I started back in 2017.
It has lead to some admins forming "federations", silos, inside the fediverse.
Like I can see technical solutions for some problems, like DNSSEC verification similar to that of E-mail.
But there is no technical solution to snowflakes acting butthurt.
Of course, that didn't work when people started doing that whole "block X or we'll block you" guilt-by-association thing. But I just hope that's a minority.
I believe a solution to this may be more decentralisation, so a small number of admins with old and bitter feuds aren't able to control the experience for the majority of users on large servers. Admins should be friends, not celebrities.
That's why I'm not part of the whole UFoI thing, but I'm sympathetic to its existence.
As long as people follow the server rules, aggressively presented arguments, anger, fear, rude words said to famous accounts, should not lead to de-federation. Our rules already disallow all forms of xenophobia, transphobia, attacks, doxing and all that stuff.
End users need to take more responsibility for moderation in the fedi. That's why we have the Mute button. But people would rather take "action" with the Report button, than the Mute button.
Because they get so angry at some stranger online. You don't know anything about that person, or what they're going through.
I have experience meeting reformed nazis, previously violent people who are trying to reform. So people go through stages in life, and maybe sometimes they're a bit off, but some day that person is going to wake up and then we should be able to help them out of their daze. De-federation makes this impossible.
You can't have a technical solution to that, it's a design choice/tradeoff. You can have a highly permissionless social network, but then it's not useful for the average person because it doesn't exclude the "undesirable" content; and you can have a highly regulated social network but then it's obviously not useful for people who do want to make the excluded content; but you can't have a single social network (even if federated) for everyone, splits are inevitable.
If such a feature was more robustly built into a platform like Twitter then the company themselves would have a lot less pressure in making a universal decision (which guarantees some disagree with)
'snowflakes acting butthurt'
('_')