As you reference in your threat about your kids, I knew the consequences of going against her will.
However, when I was finally able to visit home I realized she has lost weight and was a danger to herself, even trying to “take a walk” at 2am on a cold winter night.
I lied to her, convinced her to get in the car and drove her to a mental facility where she received treatment and has recovered mostly.
To this day she resents me and doesn’t fully trust me.
Maybe I’m wrong, but it seems in my family I’m the only person willing to trash our relationship to keep her safe.
This could have been avoided if she was self reflective and open to feedback, but her ego cannot take it, she’s simply too fragile.