If you're having to use reverse engineering and problem solving to form emotional connections, then you might want to spend the time in therapy and working through what caused you to be emotionally stunted.
Is that actually true? Things I've read seem to suggest that, at least for men, forming close friendships is hard, especially as we get older.
I'm feeling it, too. I'm 41, and with the exception of my partner, I don't think I've made a close friend in nearly a decade.
(Also, note that this is talking about close friendships, not just people to hang out with.)
But really, this "apparatus" seems to work for this person, and he seems to be happy with the results, so who are we to criticize? If others who also have trouble making friends can find this useful, all the better. If not, that's fine too.
The methodology boils down to:
1. Push past mundane small talk and ask deeper questions. Follow up with more questions.
2. Be willing and able to open up when asked questions (or even when not asked, as a follow-on to what the other person is saying).
3. Don't be afraid to be the one to reach out to try to set up more meetings.
4. Put yourself in situations where you are likely to interact with people, especially situations where those people are likely to have similar interests.
Doesn't seem that convoluted to me.
> Making friends just isn't that hard for the vast majority of people.
Good for you and the vast majority of people, I guess...?