- expensive housing
- very expensive to raise kids, e.g. day care.
- women expected to remain in the workforce, or they need to remain in the workforce because of the cost of living.
This makes kids seem incredibly inconvenient and also it isn't clear your kids will have a better life than yours. Kids are not a joy, but a burden.
I think we need to let the primary caregivers of children, women or man, not have to have a stressful a full-time job while raising kids.
Also we need affordable housing and affordable child care.
Big cities are not setup for this - the bigger the city the more expensive and inconvenient raising kids are. Thus the remote work trend may be part of the solution to this. I also think that living in rural areas is pro-fertility (for these same reasons) and given that this tends to trend Republican, there is likely a Republican pro-fertility advantage over the long term, at least in North America.
BTW any notice that Elon Musk says we need more kids while at the same time has cut parental benefits and also killed work at home at his companies? Also he pushes "hard core" hours that would annoying any parents. That guy doesn't make sense to me.