Given the immense trust I have for the names behind Tailscale, sure. I don’t run my own data centers, either, so it is a sound business decision to offload this too.

To a novice, how else would you do it?

Ie i can self host most of this, but wouldn't i be hosting it on literally a $5mo VPS with a static IP to work around my homes dynamic IP?

...yes?

You're already offloading critical parts of your infrastructure anyway.

welcome to 2010