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To someone from a more collectivist culture this sounds perfectly noncommittal - a weak reed that pierces the hand of anyone who would support himself on it. What is there to be had, except lunch expenses?

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Oh wow. What would be more appropriate in a collectivist culture? Avoiding the message and instead go over to their house to do the things suggested above?

Offering to pass the name around in your circles or keeping ears open at your company, that would be actually helpful. I've always found "let me know how I can help" code for "don't bother me" in America.

Especially bad and a red flag: "If you've got time this weekend we can grab lunch." The fellow might be in crisis now, but don't bother me until the weekend.

Like I said, change the specific phrasing as you want and makes sense, every situation and person is different. The goals were "offer help with an actual example" and "offering company/fun/distraction without being pushy", it doesn't have to be a weekend lunch or looking over practice questions, it could also be sending their resume to friends and gaming together later that night, same same.

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