> Sometimes, though, I will allow the distance between myself and the next car to close, for example, if they're turning and will be gone in a second anyway. The Subaru then ruins my well-calculated slowdown maneuver by slamming on the brakes because it thinks I'm approaching the vehicle ahead of me too quickly. Well, yes, maybe, but they're also halfway out of the lane already so it's not terribly significant that I'm only one car-length away and still going 40 MPH. Another half-second and they'll be gone, restoring my follow distance.
You really shouldn't be driving like that. You don't know if the car in front of you making that turn is going to brake suddenly, like because, I dunno, they suddenly see a pedestrian crossing on the side street.
Personally, I'm a more reserved (I guess safer?) driver, and I always leave good following distance and brake predictably in order to do so, and I can't say I've had problems with these systems. And I'm 100% in favor of systems that force other drivers on the road to drive more safely as well. Now if only they could prevent tailgating entirely ...