The lives people dream of are often expressions of fantasies and desires to escape their current situation. Personally everything is the same. I've never found joy from any of them.
Just like when people say "people are so different now; everyone's so <X>"
What bullshit. Everything is the same, except the observer's ever increasing age with respect to others.
My parents just can’t fathom the idea that I‘d do more with and for my kids than the bare minimum required. And I don’t think that’s entirely an individual change, but rather a generational one, too.
I think the trick is to design the 90% to work based on realities, not fantasies. We think that moving to bali, surfing every day, drinking coconuts and participate in ayahuasca is somewhat extraordinary or can sustain our connection to it long-term, but thats not really the case. Every place, every fantasy has a trade-off and is usually short lived.
So coming back to `present`. Its fixing our daily life that is desperately needed in order not to dream of that 2 weeks bahamas escapism. But I suppose that is what is meant here as slow life and how can we design it... unfortunately still haven't found the answer to this.