You can get a hell of a lot of mileage out of knowing which parts of your system can be swapped out or configured in interesting ways, but these days you're more likely to treat your OS as a dumb binary-runner and let a dozen SaaS do all the interesting stuff instead.
Kinda like people who treat their DB as a dumb datastore and don't actually leverage any interesting or distinctive features of it. I guess it's nice that your system can be ported to almost any datastore without trouble, but... man you'd have saved yourself a lot of time, bugs, and money if you'd just actually leveraged your DB. Seems operating systems are getting the same treatment. Why learn to configure a forwarding log daemon when you can just ship to logstash? Why use email alerts when you have pagerduty and an uptime monitor and just auto-rebuild any instances that error? Why use full-featured filesystems like ZFS, and really take advantage of its capabilities to easily add features that'd otherwise be very difficult or to attain much greater server reliability/uptime if you're gonna store everything on S3 and your instances are ephemeral? But then one wonders, why run an actual full OS in the first place, then, if you're not going to use it at all? And indeed, I gather some are moving away from that, for precisely that reason (e.g. Firecracker, "serverless")
Me, I find myself digging deeper and deeper into letting the OS, system services, and mature daemons solve problems for me, rather than searching Github first thing for whatever half-baked Nodejs "webscale" solution there is, or DIYing something that treats the OS as nothing but a job-runner and socket-provider. But that seems to be dinosaur thinking these days.
When the distros started to expand, being a smarthost was the most common configuration. Today, I agree with you the only reason for any sort of SMTP daemon is for programs to send email - all the users are on Google/Slack.
A correctly-configured MTA on all your servers, and a few email filters on the client side, are basically the old-school version of that.