Almost all discussions involving women with respect to stereotypes or gender oppression will devolve into the same pedantic, non-productive patterns of fuzzy thinking and inability to discern causation from correlation. It's a topic where cherry-picked beliefs are so strong (on multiple sides) that it pulls you in like a black hole, and nothing truly useful, not even light, can escape. Just noise. I've learned to try to ignore it when I can. Especially here on HN, where the "college" demographic is particularly strong, and particularly susceptible to it.
The takeaway I wish everyone would have, instead, would be something like, in short: that women and men are actually different. Get over it. Individuals vary. No shit! Unfair things happen. Get over it. Men get shit too. Not all things you don't like are because of your gender. Get over it. And there are plenty worse things, by orders of magnitude. Get over it.