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Comment by onychomys | Hacker News Reader

It seems a little weird that your wife is so removed from the financial side of your setup. Does she really not know where your credit accounts are and how much are on them?

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Not the OP, but for my prior relationship my ex wanted to be divested of that knowledge. I tried early on to keep them abreast of what was going on, but they were "not a numbers person," and whenever I tried to explain our complicated financial structures and how assets were liquidated and passed through various accounts to accomplish large projects their eyes glazed over. So, they trusted me to keep us solvent, and I made just about any request of theirs happen (which sometimes required a lot of juggling).

All relationships are different. :)

My partner is the same. I have a document that says "here is the name of our accountant. I recommend you do X for now".

Yup, my wife doesn't want to deal with such things. Total assets, yes, but the details of managing them are entirely my job. She doesn't want to deal with it and I don't want her to have online access because she would be way too easy to phish.

> where your credit accounts are

I don't know all of ours. I know our shared bank account, and that's about it (well, we have a shared password manager, so I could probably figure it out). It doesn't seem useful to have the knowledge, and when she dies, the least of my worries is a missed payment or two.

> how much are on them

I doubt most people on HN carry credit card debt.

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