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I mean words only hurt if you let them in so that’s why we think of things this way.

It sucks to be in a relationship with someone who can’t forgive or forget. Mean vindictive people who will twist words and who are suppose to love you unconditionally.

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Something to consider, as more and more people say things to you, you start to understand the different ways in which people are terrible, which isn't all that bad because nobody is perfect. But then you start to understand the ways in which all people are flawed, that's when you really lose faith in humanity. So words might not hurt, but they offer more and more reasons to disengage, not just from terrible people, but from otherwise "normal, friendly, would-never-commit-a-crime people"

> So words might not hurt, but they offer more and more reasons to disengage, not just from terrible people, but from otherwise "normal, friendly, would-never-commit-a-crime people"

Oof that hit home.

FWIW, meditation (Vipassana after a few years of Samahdi), really helps with this because it shows you your own inconsistencies and faults. You're part of that sometimes nasty group, too. This may well lead to a short depression at times but overall, a much more positive outlook. "Them's just how it is, and good things still sometimes happen."

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