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Maybe his family/personal problems are serious. After all we are all humans. If I would be in your place I would take this list you made here, present it to him and ask what he thinks should be done to improve things - and maybe you have your own ideas too. I would first present your concerns to him and try to talk this out in a friendly matter.

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I believe there aren't really any problems, just he doesn't have a lot of free time with a full time job and family; but you're right, I may not be aware of the full picture here.

I'm honestly not interested in screwing the guy, we've both (mentally) invested in this project even if he hasn't contributed significantly to the actual work itself. An honest sit-down is definitely the way to go.

Maybe there aren't any problems - but your partner may believe things are as they should be. Because you have not expressed your concerns. The first thing is to talk about, you can always pull Zuckenberg on him later. But without this step you will never know if you were right or wrong.

You are, of course, correct. I've been a bit cowardly so far, but that needs to change; I'll talk to him and see if we can't work things out. At the very least, I should make him aware I'm feeling like this.

Well the confrontation can't be avoided forever. It's best if you do this when things can be fixed.

"I'll talk to him and see if we can't work things out" That is a dangerous freudian slip there.

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