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Your theory makes no sense. First you obviously mean the top 0.1% of men. Second the top 0.1% of men can't date more than a few percent of the women.

Much more likely you don't put enough effort into your profile or you have something on, that is a red flag for most women.

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You are 100% correct, unsuccessful guys need to seek help and there are paid services out there. Or speak to a few women on these platforms (chicken-egg I know) and you will be told what others are doing that is turning them off. You need to treat this for what it is, marketing. You don't just put up your first attempt and say women aren't into me. You need to iterate and experiment. I know, it's hard work, 90% of guys won't put in the effort, they will just complain they aren't in the top 0.1% in attractiveness.

Yes I did mean the top 0.1% of men.

I disagree with that the top man can not date more than a few.

A single woman needs a romantic partner let's say ever three months, a man can have one every day. We see this in gay men having 500+ average sexual partners. Gay men can have sex as much as they want, because of access.

Top 0.1% of men can also have sex when ever they want, they are getting constant matches with 6,7,8 level woman. Well below their level, because its easier to get people below your level into bed without courting.

They have sex, he doesn't call her back, she is mad at men for another three months.

A few men can soak up all of the above average woman, considering they are on a bell curve and are rare them self. Only a subset of people are even on these dating apps.

Average looking people don't have this problem, because they are happy with matching other average woman who the top men are not interested in.

Summary: top men can date below their own level because a 7 woman, three below them is still very beautiful. But a 7 man can't date three below their own level because a 4 is not attractive and not worth the time using a app for.

Judging by how you are framing the issue and the way you've talked about women in this thread (which has been a red flag for me, at least) I suspect your experience has nothing to do with your physical traits.

Please focus on the argument and don't attack the poster's character. This isn't reddit.

If you'd read the thread, you'll find out that the poster's character is a part of the discussion (as he claims his character has nothing to do with his lack of success on dating sites).

The argument is, "I'm having trouble getting women to approve of me because of systemic issues with women."

I'm pointing out that the causal relationship the poster is making might be wrong. The issue could be the behavior if the poster, not some systemic issue with women.

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