Society's job is to keep functioning. Part of that is eliminating risks. Men are risky to society because they generally are aggressive and are often willing to go through with their aggressive ideas. That is why you see the feminizing of men. Talking about your feelings, etc. This doesn't work for men. Action works for men. They have eliminated most sources of action.

Society has not failed men, society has succeeded. If you want to be a man who channels your aggression, you need to strike out on your own or build an army of followers. There are still outlets for manly activities, they are just different.