It's error message blindness, similar to ad blindness. Even if you make a great banner ad with some very useful information, or the perfect and affordable product for my life I won't see it because I mentally filter out ads because they are junk most of the time.
Some people develop the same with relation to error messages because most of them are not actionable, other than "stuff broke somehow, [gibberish] blabla". Even if your error message is impeccable, it's in the class of things that are noise.
If you come up to me at some busy tourist location, where I'm used to lots of scammers, I won't listen to you even if you are actually a nice person and just want to have a nice chat and we would be compatible friends.
Often it is a good strategy to just ask people. Documentation and comments get out of date very fast. If you are the kind of person who reads everything meticulously and googles around, reads manuals etc. you may be wasting a lot of time. Of course there is a right balance to find. Some people err too much on the side of not thinking themselves and immediately asking for handholding, but overall it's often the right thing to do.
In many cases I found that trying to reason out what was going on was hopeless, because when I eventually gave up and asked someone, it turned out that the solution was unguessable, something like "ah of course, that things is out of date, do this magic incantation, then this and that, yeah we should update the docs sometime!".
A lot of knowledge is locked up inside people's brains and just spreads around as "rumors" on the grapevine. Is that state of affairs ideal? No. But it's realistic and people are going to adapt by asking first, thinking second.