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Kind of makes me anxious about having kids but I have also heard, on the other end, senior people expressing how gloomy it feels to not have kids. And unlike the tiredness of having kids, that anxiety only grows forever till the day you die and all you leave behind is a nice car.

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My algorithmic approach has always been:

1. You’re 100% sure you don’t want kids? Then don’t.

2. In all other cases, have a child. Even when in doubt.

Years will pass and doubt may perish, but with it also the ability to have children.

This seems like the most inhumane way to make the decision discussed, even if you're not necessarily wrong for taking this approach. I can't imagine what it'd be like being a small child in a household where your parents "had doubt" and turns out they didn't really want you after all. You can't fake it well enough for 18 years where they wouldn't notice. Just sad imho

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