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So much this! Add in health issues to your list of "reasons why things can be different".

It's ignorant to think that your experience with kids is how it is for everyone. Kids can be hard - very hard.

Yes, I think many people’s concern is volatility. Health issues are primary, and can affect your ability to work, and your ability to work affects your ability to provide for the kid(s). So if you do not have able and willing family or friends around to assist, then it can seem to be a risky venture.

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