How I learned to motivate a stubborn programmer

If you approach it as though the task is easy, the mind searches for difficulties and reasons why it might not be possible instead.

This is why programmers don't make the big bucks.

That said, you come off as a needy manipulative little shithead.

If this was such a big deal to you, and you cared so much about self-improvement, why didn't you learn the skills yourself instead of manipulating Paul into doing stuff for you?