Ever Tried Lock picking? This perfectly applies there ;)

Yes. I was molested and raped as a child. Like most victims of such violence, I hated and rejected my sexuality and felt like if I could just remove that, all would be right with the world. The single hardest psychological moment of my entire life was when I realized that hating my sexuality and blaming it for my suffering only perpetuated the damage -- that to heal, I had to learn to love my sexuality and be gentle with myself and seek out gentle, caring experiences with men rather than hating men and avoiding them.

I've also been battling for my life with a serious medical condition. I have essentially beaten it and no longer have chronic pain, am no longer on boatloads of medication, etc. The condition is very deadly, so the standard medical response is to break out the big guns and nuke the body in order to kill off deadly infections. Having recovered from the sexual abuse I endured, I pursued the opposite approach of gently supporting my body -- feeding it right, removing problems from my environment and so on. The body is the battleground on which this war takes place and the response of throwing ever stronger drugs at the problem is part of what kills people like me (news that is very unwelcome to the ears of most people with my diagnosis).

It's also a proven negotiation tactic to back down, make concessions and work on earning trust rather than constantly escalating until things get ugly (like war is declared).

i don't know about deadly but a small example of this concept is when people are caught speeding. people have a higher chance of getting out of speeding tickets by crying and/or admitting fault instead of challenging the police and denying any wrong doing.