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I'm going to refute that it's a miserable experience because you're a man. As a decent looking man in a stable career I had a great time on hinge. I had many simultaneous conversations, and many dates that I had to cancel after finding someone I wanted to be exclusive with. We've now been together almost a year and I was in the app for less than a month.

This experience was highly location subjective though. I had many great matches in the bay area.

YMMV

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>"I'm going to refute that it's a miserable experience because you're a man."

I think you have given a counter-example rather than a refutation. I don't deny that some men have great success on dating apps, but that experience is not evenly distributed.

Thanks for pointing that out!

Your solo anecdote does not weight up against the hordes of counterexamples.

Additionally, age plays a huge factor. None of the comments have mentioned age so far.

The continued popularity and financial success of dating apps implies it is working to some degree for some amount of users. I'm not sure what the age issue is regarding men. As a man in my early 40s I still get occasional matches with women in their 20's. Age is a far bigger issue for women.

They mean that age is an issue in that many women actually prefer older men. So all else being equal you still may have an advantage compared to a man in his early 20's

That's the point. Age flips the script given the guy gave half a hoot about his body and career.

>implies it is working to some degree for some amount of users

And gambling works for some amount of users, but we both understand casinos would die out if users were making a net profit on average. Meaning there's more to this.

For anyone feeling inclined to say "but winning isn't the only thing about a casino!", yes, exactly.

Right but we all know tons of people in relationships that started on dating apps. Most of us don't know anyone who got rich gambling.

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