Of course! Growth takes time. And it‘s normal that beginners start out with very little refinement. That‘s true of any endeavor in life.
But what is also unreasonable is to expect that someone else out there („people“? „society“? „women“?) should be responsible for your growth. That might have been true in tribal societies („It takes a village to raise a child“). But live in an individualistic society. And just as people on the street won‘t go out of their way to help you learn, say, regular expressions, they won‘t do that to help you get laid, or find love, or make your marriage work.
With Regex, if you had books or articles that made it sound like an intractible problem, you‘d ditch those sources and find better ones. With women and relationships, though, guys just seem to happily accept the conclusion that things are rigged against them because they are men. Like some mirror-feminist ideology where it becomes a badge of honor to demonstrate that a man needs a woman as much „as a fish needs a bicycle“. What a silly game!
I once read about a psychologist who said that, in America, people mentally map the concept of „sex“ to the idea of „war“. „Battle of the sexes“ - that kind of thing. But one makes a mistake when one takes that map to be the territory. This „battle of the sexes“ thing is just one way of ascribing meaning to observations (and of filtering them). It‘s just a story. An ideology. You only have to play by its rules if you subscribe to it.