This makes no sense at all. I'm on Monterey right now, with a OS install and user that has been with every upgrade and Time Machine migration to new hardware since 10.3 (2003). That's 19 years of upgrades, virtual machines (which always have programs that mess with networks, kernel extensions and file handlers), package managers (including Fink, Macports and brew) and devtools (including many JetBrains products, Xcode, Sublime Text, BBEdit, VSCode, Atom (which is now dead), Docker Desktop which I replaced with Rancher Desktop and then have Podman on the side. Even the Apple mail app has had its database upgraded all those years, as did iTunes (which eventually became Music).
On a second machine that started from 10.5 onwards (on a PowerMac G5) I have a nearly identical setup that ended up in the same state but also had the hop to M1 done. No "eek my Mac feels so dirty" there either.
Granted, I have a Debian install on yet another machine that has been with me since Woody (2002-ish), and that is similarly just upgraded over the years, switched from 32-bit to 64-bit in-situ, switched between ext2/3, ext4, ZFS, root-on-zfs, from BIOS to UEFI, and it still works great.
I think that while the OS and vendor definitely have an impact, it's really going to depend on the user how it works over time.