A relative was going to gift me a (fairly, not huge) sum of money. The bank refused to allow them to wire transfer. As in, flat out, nope, you want to wire transfer more than say $5,000 and it is not to a corporation (e.g. mortgage, car company, etc, but to an individual) the answer is NO. This was truly eye-opening to me. This was their money. As in, hey, I worked for this money, and I would like to spend it. And... the answer is no. Of course, I understand, they can just cut a check, or make a money order, but that adds a delay, and hey, what is the bank there for? To add delays?
A very similar thing happened to my bank. I literally was going to purchase a used item, it was a few grand, I went in, said I wanted a few grand from my account. The answer was NO. Write a check or grab a money order. Hey, regardless of the situation, regardless of "perhaps this person is doing a shady cash-only deal", that money in the bank is technically MINE, right?
NO, its not my money. Its the banks money. I guess possession is really 9/10 of the law. After a few of these incidents happened and I started talking to friends, I head similar stories over and over. I find it amazing that citizens are pretty calm about this. It took a fair amount of emotional intelligence to not freak out in the lobby when the teller tells me the money I really worked for I just can not have right now.