For some, memory safety is a means to an end: delivering value. In this perspective, one must weigh the benefits of improving memory safety against the complexity costs of proving memory safety. In some situations, the improvement is too small and the added complexity is too much. Some apps and some embedded situations come to mind. Languages like Odin and Zig can be stellar in these situations.
For others, memory safety is a responsibility, and upholding it is a basic requirement of modern software no matter what costs we need to pay for it, and if the world would just accept that, then we as a society could move past the days of rampant vulnerabilities and odd memory bugs.
Both sides are equally compelling, to me at least. What I hope people can learn is that it really depends on the situation. There is a place and time for both approaches. Once we can accept that, I think the toxicity will dissipate.