I work for a remote only company. I’ve never met most of the people I speak to daily. Do I feel strong bonds with them? I don’t. Do we work well together? Absolutely!
And I think that contrary what I’d expect, not bonding strongly with coworkers makes for a better workplace.
Instead of a hierarchy of friendships and relationships, you focus on communicating information to each other.
Since there is no body language to read in wfh, contentious discussions don’t feed off our instinctive reactions to say an eye roll or a quick glance at the laptop screen while you are talking to someone.
If a conversation has reached its natural end, you have to explicitly say it in wfh.
Discussions have much longer shelf life in wfh since everything worth remembering is put into a confluence/Google doc. For example, I’ll get forwarded docs or KT videos from early 2021 explaining the state of a certain product.
Is detecting slackers and “weak links” easier in wfh? Since everything worth doing quickly needs a doc to act as central repo for the project, a quick glance at the document can tell a manager whatever they need to know about whether someone is doing their job or not.
In all, remote only work has less drama and social jostling. E.g., if you’ve never seen a coworker casually chat with the ceo about their shared interest in (say) sudoku, you’re unlikely to feel “less close” to the ceo and make that a factor in how you work.
What about team culture? Intangibles like water cooler chat?
Tbh, I wouldn’t recognize team culture if it smacked me in the face. Your team culture is literally the water you swim in. Only someone outside the can tell you that you have a team culture.
As social animals, we anyway gravitate towards forming bonds with people over some obscure commonality and it’s no different in wfh.
Water cooler chats don’t happen as much. Still, sidebar conversations find their way to the shared doc because without documenting the conversation, no one else is going to know what was decided in the sidebar conversation.
All this said, wfh does leaves a void in my life which used to be filled with friendships with coworkers. The only way to fill that void is by proactively building relationships with neighbors or parasocially.
Do I love it? Wfh makes ideas like love obsolete, imho - with wfh, I’m far more outcomes focused so my relationships with coworkers or work assigned to me doesn’t seem very relevant.
I do appreciate the zero commute but since I wfh, I end up doing more around the house.
All in all, wfh isn’t at all like the traditional norm of work - your work is fully integrated with your day. There’s no obvious clock-in and clock-out.
Busy work is low. Dead times when you’re waiting for people to talk to you are frequent.
I like all this but I’m still
not able to decide whether I prefer wfh over in-person.
Wfh checks all the boxes for the ideal job environment - low drama, less office politics, outcome based performance reviews - but you’re also alone for huge parts of the day.