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The only online dating site that was worth a moment's time was Facebook, and then they removed the search facility.

OKCupid was interesting, but not a magic bullet. It was then bought by Match, which consists primarily of marketing and poor website construction.

Online 'dating' is a social problem more than a computing problem and, as such, no good solution will ever exist. Anyone male thinking of sinking time into one would be better served by simply getting out more, taking classes, adopt a dog and walk it, etc.

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I have to agree with you in a sense that this is a social problem (but of course that's what's interesting with graph integration and social media now). As a guy who took Attraction classes (or PUA training as some might know it) and created a much higher success rate for myself by negating the traditional online dating sphere I do believe time is probably better spent offline--however, I still think the computing angle of this and the way in which society is already headed, this is one of those holy grails of the internet.

That reminds me... I had a female friend who would likely be considered attractive to most. She was yammering on about how terribly interesting this guy was who she met online. He kept asking such interesting questions, and gave her a "personality test" about a cube in the desert, and a ladder, and...

Several months later, when I was reading The Game, he got around to describing exactly this 'test'. I laughed for quite some time.

Apparently, PUA cheesiness works online, as well.

This is quite off topic but because of how well known 'The Game' is, it should never be used as a how-to as it once was but more of an inside look at what such a life entails. Quite a few girls have read such books, and actually look out for such tells to identify frustrated chumps--and well the "chessyness" and the hyper convoluted dating approach of that time just doesn't cut it anymore (I've seen some old techniques done, and successfully, but it's not advisable haha--but again a lot of these things are built upon psychological understandings), and it's a big reason why that field has really had to evolve in the past few years. Simple common sense and psychological and biological foundations seem to be the way to go.

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