Pro-tip: co-sleeping. I know this is considered heretical in the US, but the rest of the world does it because it's so much easier, and unless you're morbidly obese/drunk/on drugs it's fine.
It's not, children under 2 are not fully equipped to free themselves if they get stuck or covered by something or someone. I'm not here to give parenting advice so, you do you, but it's irresponsible to suggest there is no risk when there very much is increased risk of death. The risk goes down as the child matures of course, but some parents sleep lighter than others, some move in their sleep, some sleep in soft beds with lots of bedding or pillows, or high up.
These are not remotely comparable and it's dishonest to argue otherwise. In-bed co-sleeping mats are banned in many countries. Cribs are not.
Can you imagine a scenario in pre-history (when we could first call ourselves homo-sapiens) when the parents would be like "okay, you can fuck off a sleep in the corner now"? There's a reason children scream like that when you try it. Listen to the difference between that crying, and crying when there's just generally something a bit wrong like they're hungry. You can rationalise it all you like, but you're traumatising the child.
Having said all that, I did _not_ find it easier, but incredibly difficult.
Most spouses are also less than keen on sexy time if they've had to drag their chronically sleep-deprived asses up a flight of stairs from the bedroom to the nursery every 45 minutes for the past three months.
A lot of people there say that sleeping is ruined. Maybe just a small change in habits helps.
I'm not based in the US (Australia) and it's quite frowned upon here.
If you want to sleep near your child, a bassinet near your bed is just as close but much safer.
It seems selfish to me to put that kind of risk on your own kid.
Here's one (small) study that says cosleeping is safer that an separate room:
https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1111/j.1440-1754.2007...
https://rednose.org.au/article/Co-sleeping_with_your_baby (Australian non-profit raising awareness against SIDS)
https://raisingchildren.net.au/newborns/sleep/where-your-bab... (Australian government-based parenting resources)
https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/baby/caring-for-a-newborn/redu... (UK Health service)
It's all official health advice from government bodies which say it's unsafe regardless of the parents situation.
I've found though this debate is similar to the "anti-vax" one, in that most people are quite emotional about it regardless of evidence, and can't generally be persuaded.