If your goal is to build an exotic resort for billionaires go to Venus. If you're trying to ensure the survival of humanity in the event of a planet-scale catastrophe go to Mars.
Any attempted Mars colony would die out not long after the last shipment, as materials necessary to its continued survival remain unobtainable there.
Furthermore, Starship is anyway wholly inadequate to establish a continued presence on Mars. If it works fully l as well as promised, it might suffice to maintain a Lunar outpost.
Anyone who hopes to establish a sustainable presence off-Earth must look to O'Neill Cans.
Much like the moon missions, the side-effect benefits that it encourages will likely end up making such a mission worthwhile for the tech alone.
I don't understand your criticism of starship though, would you clarify why you think it's not suitable?
All the choices after that become very unpleasant, of questions about who gets to continue living. The supportable number declines inexorably to zero.