I think we pamper “toughen up” bullshit like this way too much, and if you’re so sensitive that you can’t let people not do something you enjoy without calling their personal preferences which don’t affect you into question, maybe just go watch the dog die and stop worrying so much about whether everyone else enjoys it the way you do.
When you do an image search for trypophobia trigger images, you can understand it. While I won't be bothered by holes in some object that is expected to have them, the images of such holes being mapped onto faces and hands and such makes it obvious how these surface disturbances can be framed as grotesque.
Frankly, you kinda sound offended that people have preferences for when and how they engage with their trauma. Grow up. If you don't want to know, don't look.
I think people should be able to make art including movies to express what they want to express in the way they want to express it. But I should have the ability to learn about and avoid things that I don’t want to see. We don’t know what’s in peoples heads, and it’s important to give people control.
This happened in a professional context - a well produced video about domestic violence that included a well produced example of controlling behavior and a form of abuse. It was very unpleasant for many people, including victims of violence, and in response the company gave folks an opportunity to review a transcript and opt out of watching.
It's no different from using a user CSS or a Greasemonkey script on the client-side to filter what we want to see on the web; it works only for that specific user and doesn't directly affect the server/creator side.
If you're affected enough by these things to create a website to make sure it doesn't happen to you - and people are happy to use it voluntarily, I think it's a valid problem being solved right there. I don't see pampering really.
So it’s hard to know what to make of the intuition.
Combat movies were blood free and married couples slept in separate twin beds. A racy movie may feature a long kiss with the girl in a one piece bathing suit or dance costume.
How soft is your pillow? What's your threadcount? Do you pamper yourself too much? Probably.
These movies are not banned. All this content is permitted in movies.
But someone (voluntarily) created a resource people can consult (voluntarily) to find out information about the films from other people who have submitted the information (voluntarily.)
No one has to be involved with this who does not want to be. No decision is being made on behalf of anyone else.
That's pretty much peak "live and let live" in my book.
I'll also mention that I train BJJ and fight with people for hours every week, so I'm not some super sensitive person.
a) we are pampering people too much
b) that it makes them easier to upset
c) that people being easier to upset would be a bad thing?
Just seems a weird thing to get hung up on, but if there's some solid reasoning behind it then it would be interesting.
For me, I lost my dog recently. Life did throw a lot more at me than fictional death, and for a little while I’d like to not relive that in movies or games.
Tools like this just equip folks to make these decisions for themselves. They aren’t bellwethers for society.
how do you know? what if there's just been a cultural shift where people just feel like being more vocal about the offense they've always had to certain things?
Most movies these days are self-indulgent, following a simple pattern that has made money for the industry before. Imo, these tend to be uninspired and not worth watching.
The fact that a pet does or does not perish within a film should not be a prerequisite for enjoyment
I’d even go so far as to say that’s so absurd anyone defending it is doing so to provoke.
Not being provocative at all.
Also, there is cinema outside blockbusters, but popcorn doesn't go well with whatever independent cinema is going to haunt the viewer.