> why so many of us have the impulse to figure out what the flaw or missing part of the story is.

Why? Because that's literally what engineers are paid to do: make things, break things, fix things. It's all about tearing things apart to understand them, and then making them better.

Just like this kid is doing. I don't think DC motor engineers took it personally when he decided to "figure out what the flaw" was in current rare earth magnet designs, right?

If you take that personally, you're in the wrong field.