Not autistic at all, just not actuated by submission. I have compassion for my socially awkward brethren, but sometimes we just need a push. If most self-diagnosed "on the spectrum" people would self-accept instead, it would reduce their neuroticism and agreeableness, and most of their social issues would disappear. The anxiety comes from the double bind of having compromised ourselves into relationships where we can't maintain the dissonance between the agreeable way of relating with "good behaviour" to others that we have structured our personal relationships around - and the self we have diverted and often hidden thinking that's what we needed to do to have healthy relationships and jobs. Chances are they (we) lack personal boundaries because our ability to develop and set them was hampered by early life experiences and parents with poor personal boundaries. If you learned get things by "being good," your idea of "good" may be a transaction, where you expect others to give you things because you are good, and the compromises you make to do it pile up as resentment and soul debt. When you don't have tools to navigate the world without pretending to be "good," (whatever that means), we don't even know we're misrepresenting anymore. Internet pop psychology, but carrying around these self-diagnoses like talismans to ward off disapproval and maintain our perfectionism needs to stop. Be imperfect and accept that you are going suck at anything you haven't actively practiced with intention, particularly something like self acceptance. Anything that looks easy is almost always the effect of a huge amount of invisible work, and by starting with respect for that, it's possible to maybe walk back these protective self-diagnoses and use the same decision power to self-identify as responsible for your own feelings, and self-accept as having a quite complex experience where the journey isn't to mitigate it, but to really fully explore it. It goes so fast. Don't forget to enjoy it.